- Describe
your experience. Did you find it beneficial? Difficult? Why or why not?
Would you recommend this to others? Why or why not?
I enjoyed this loving-kindness
exercise. I love love and always say
that I am a love cheerleader. I started this
exercise with thoughts of my dad, knowing how he prays for us and gives to my
sisters and me anything he can so openly and supportively. I always pray that I can be that giving and
open throughout my life. I know that for
this he expects so little in return and I know that is what being a parent is
and it is because of him that I understand that. I have always been and extremely giving
person and it is because I learned that lesson from my father. After that I began to focus on myself and
allowing that love to radiate through me, so much so I felt quite overwhelmed
with love and support. It was
beautiful. As I begin to take that same
love and support and send it to those I feel that need it, I realize that I
have some many people whom I would like to help that it became really easy to
imagine where to send the love in my heart to.
The challenge with this exercise was taking into my heart the hurt of my
loved ones and sending it back out as love.
Though I believe in this practice, when it was instructed I felt the
flow shift when I was asked to do it. I
didn’t know if my heart could handle the challenges with some of my family
members and the pain and suffering of so many women and children in the
world. I just took a really deep breath
and continued to send this loving support out into the world. I will continue to the loving-kindness
exercise for the rest of the week and see what happens. I would recommend this exercise to others
especially those around me who get stuck in their “why do bad things always happen
to me” cycle of thinking.
- What
is the concept of "mental workout"? What does the research
indicate are the proven benefits of a mental workout? How can you
implement mental workouts to foster your psychological health?
The concept of the mental workout is
described by Dacher in two phases: one is the loving-kindness exercise and the
second is the subtle mind exercises. He
instructs us to work with the loving-kindness exercises in order to get beyond
our self-centered thinking and elevate
our psychospiritual self. He discusses
how loving-kindness attracts loving-kindness, which I think is what everyone
really wants to have in their lives. He
then talks about how we can focus next on the subtle mind, which reminds me of
a quote I see all the time when I read Yoga
Sutras by Patanjali. It states, “Yogah-cittavrtti-nirodhah”
which means, “Yoga is the cessation of the mind’s fluctuations.” The goal is to eliminate the busyness of the
mind and attachment to all of the consistent flow of thoughts, feelings and
images to allow us to find a deeper level of consciousness.
Research shows that the mental Olympians who have mastered
these techniques have a higher level of gamma wave activity in the brain. It also shows a mental fortitude that is not
subject to mind fluctuations or mental distress and the expansions of health
and healing capabilities.
I think the best way to implement these mental
workouts is to practice first the loving-kindness exercises then once that
becomes easier move towards working on the subtle mind activities. My goal is to try to practice these exercises
in the morning and evening. Since I am a
high-energy person, I know that doing them after some physical exercises in the
evening will work best for me.
You are so blessed to have had a father like that. I myself have no family, biologically anyway and my adoptive father only hugged me once but we never held a conversation. I think when you have such an amazing example of love, it changes you and enables you to be able to give and receive love easier than others. It makes you feel worthy of something so precious. I didn't receive love growing up at all but as a mother now, I freely give it. There isn't anything I wouldn't do for my boys and they all know it. Even if you don't receive it growing up there is still hope, you can teach yourself to do it or simply choose to be the opposite of how you were raised and give something you never received because you know as an adult just how imperative it is to be loved unconditionally. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing back! I am such a daddy's girl but as I listened to your story it made me think of my dad. He didn't have any parental guidance growing up either but he did his best. I am an example of that I am proud of it. However, I am always so inspired by stories like yours because it proves that we can overcome any obstacles. Your sons are lucky to have you! Peace.
DeleteHey Tiffany, I enjoyed reading your post. It's really cool how we can activate love on the inside at any moment and then act in accordance to those thoughts which will produce a love harvest back towards us! I picked up my Joyce Meyer book on the "Power of Words" yesterday and noticed she mentions "loving kindness" in relation to God's love for us enduring forever. I believe we have the power to generate like God. Genuine agape love can make most problems and stressors disappear. I also found the part on taking in the suffering of others very challenging, but I think it shows empathy towards them. If we really love someone we will jump into the middle of what they're going through, get our hands dirty, and solve their problems. That's what a change-agent does. In my stress course we discussed the hopeless-helpless personality who always thinks the worst will happen so they do not even try to make positive change. What is your take on how to best help a person with this personality trait? Do you yoga is the most effective method of relaxing the spirit, mind, and body simultaneously?
ReplyDeleteI love that you always share what you are reading. I think the loving-kindness exercise would be a great help for the hopeless-helpless type. Of course, I would recommend yoga because it awakes you in different ways, which I think is helpful for those who are caught in that cycle of hopeless and helpless thinking. I think yoga is a great mind-body spirit relaxation method because when you practice you are focusing on the breathing for the mind, the yoga postures for the body and your intentions for the spirit. However, just like with anything else it requires practice to get there but in my opinion it is well worth the effort.
DeleteHi Tiffany,
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading your experience with the exercise. I struggled with it a bit, but look forward to trying it again to see if I can improve. I think love is the best gift that we can give and whether we have or not growing up, it's never too late to learn to love and to give love, but it starts with loving ourselves. Great post!
Brandy
You are so right! Love rocks! I hope you keep trying the exercise and see if it gets easier for you. Let me know if it does. I think we are all worth the effort and loving-kindness really teaches us that. Thanks for sharing!
DeleteTiffany,
ReplyDeleteFirst, your blog is amazing. Mine needs a face lift after seeing yours. I'm very glad to hear that you loved this exercise after reading that several people did not. I also found this one to be not as helpful to me as the others. I think it is wonderful you were able to direct your love towards your dad and find a benefit in the exercise.
Thank you,
Lauren
Tiffany,
ReplyDeleteI think your post is wonderful and I could only wish I could have experienced this exercise the same. I couldn't focus because I have alot of personal things going on in my life and I had a hard time letting go. I'm going to do the exercise again and see if I get different results. Keep up the good work!
Tiffany,
ReplyDeleteYou are so very blessed to have a father so supportive and loving! I know my father is that way but has a hard time expressing it and is more of a tough love kind of guy. It's hard to have a relationship with someone you love like that that is always so negative, pessimistic, verbally abrasiveness... yet I know he has aches and pains, and that was how his father treated him. Anyways, after reading your post I also felt the same way about breathing in all of the hurt, pain, suffering and sadness as I was not sure my own heart could handle it all along with my own hurt. It was great to read step by step how you went through the exercise and I think I have a better understanding of it now.